To develop powerful self help motivation is a balancing act between learning to hold on and learning to let go. On the one hand, we need to develop our will-power. This is learning to hold on. On the other hand, to become self-motivated, especially when we are feeling extremely unmotivated or demotivated, isn't only a matter of will.
Sometimes the harder we try to push, and the tighter the grip on our goals, the less personal power we are actually able to muster. Clear intentions and accurate knowledge of the way the subconscious mind operates can have a profound influence on the results we get. Adding will power to this foundation can then take us where we want to go.
There is a path to self-improvement and motivation that runs through our minds and through our lives. Motivation begins from within. What goes on in the mind has a determining effect on all we say and do. To recover our self-motivation we need to look no further than the stepping stones of this path and to work with them proactively.
Forced motivation entails struggle; natural motivation entails ease. When you hear these two words...struggle and ease...which one sounds more natural? Which one sounds more motivating?
Struggle is a bit like trying to drive a car while having one foot on the gas and the other foot on the brakes. Tremendous energy is lost in friction making it highly unlikely that we'll get very far.
The ease of inspirational motivation is to feel the smooth acceleration of the car as we step on the gas, without the breaks getting in the way. For this kind of performance, willpower alone, just isn't enough. Subconscious resistance needs to be cleared out of the way.
When we want to motivate ourselves towards a goal or task it is useful to have a working knowledge of the three aspects of self and mind. Understanding the different aspects of the self helps clarify what it is that we are actually trying to accomplish. This knowledge empowers us to then go out and do it.
A big part of self help motivation is overcoming resistance to change. In the face of change or challenge there will be resistance that will need to be overcome. Developing self motivation for change comes from knowing ourselves inside-out. Armed with self-knowledge we can work on change not just harder but smarter. Overcoming resistance to change helps us take a look inside to see what self-change is really about.
What is emotion explores the invisible world of emotions and thoughts and how they relate to self help motivation. Emotions carry tremendous energy. Increasing our emotional intelligence through a better understanding of what are emotions, and how they operate, can be of great benefit on the path of self-improvement and motivation.
Self-help hypnosis is a powerful method for tapping the natural motivation that resides in our subconscious mind. It is a tool that helps to eliminate subconscious resistance and negative conditioning so that we are free to act in alignment with our conscious intent.
Proactivity and self-motivation are closely connected. Both are aspects of self-mastery that require an in-depth study of the mind. The wisdom of Yoda has a lot to offer in the way of teaching us about how to be more proactive in life. It is the Zen of self-motivation if you will.
In the face of big changes or challenge use the six questions in this self-help skill formula to help you assess your situation and to determine your next step. By systematically thinking things through in this way you can keep our self-motivation going strong.
Another way of developing self motivation is by learning to tap into a state of flow. In the state of flow, we directly connect to the living current of our subconscious mind, which brings with it a motivation that is pure and plentiful. This is the psychology of optimal experience that Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi talks about in his now famous classic: "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience."
Flow psychology has more about the state of flow and how to connect with it for motivation and personal growth.
Sometimes it's not easy to know why we are feeling demotivated or are experiencing absolutely no motivation. We just aren't aware of what might be blocking us. If you are experiencing a lack of motivation, or are just feeling less up-to-the-task than you would like, these positive attitude tips for challenging times can help you back on track to powerful self help motivation.
Proactivity is the heart and essence of living consciously. Reactivity, its opposite, is the heart and essence of living unconsciously. As we go about our daily lives, we are either proactive or reactive, we're either conscious or unconscious.
Being proactive means not letting the habitual patterns of the mind have their way with us. Self-motivated individuals aim to excel at this. The alternative is to be driven by reactive thinking.
This is where we need to really ask ourselves what we believe in and where we stand. Do we give in to our subconscious, reactive tendencies and let them lead us astray? Or do we let proactivity have a say and set out to cultivate a gratitude attitude and make it our way?
What are the real motivations behind our desire to manage our time? What do we hope to gain from managing our time more effectively? Do we hope to gain more time through better time-management or might it be something else that we're after? Time management for life looks at time from a bit of a different angle, perhaps giving us a new way with which to view time-management in our lives.
Sometimes our motivations aren't what they seem. We may think our motivations are pure, yet it is the thought-of-the-moment that determines our motivation when it really counts - in the here and now. The inspiring story of the monk and the pros*itu*e is a thought-provoking illustration of this point.
The story of the two wolves is another powerful depiction of the world of our inner-thoughts and motivations. The self-talk habit tells the tale of the two wolves that live inside.
Having a 'comfort zone' to retreat to is important for powerful personal growth, self improvement and motivation. We all need to have a safe place where we can rejuvenate and recoup our energies. Yet, clinging to our comfort zone for too long can have an opposite, detrimental, effect on our personal development and self-motivation.
Where it becomes harmful is when we find ourselves reluctant to leave the security of our comfort zone in exchange for new experiences and essential growth. Clinging to our comfort zone is the first of six mind habits we could do without. For more on this important self-development topic, visit clinging to our comfort zone.
The 2nd of the mind habits we do well to manage is fear. While it is true that fear can be one of the most powerful self-motivating forces known to man; it can also paralyze us into inaction when it overwhelms us. This is especially true with a particular kind of insidious fear - the fear of fear itself.
While fear may serve a positive purpose in our lives, the fear of fear itself actually doesn't help us. To learn more about this corrosive mind habit and how our self help motivation is affected by it, visit the fear of fear.
When it comes to 'getting ahead' in life, we all have a nasty habit of comparing ourselves to others. Whether it be at work, on the basketball court, on the golf course, in a nightclub or boardroom, there is never a shortage of opportunities to compare ourselves with others and judge our own 'achievements', 'performance', 'style', or very 'being' as inferior.
The irony of our reflexive tendency to compare ourselves with others is that instead of serving a positive purpose of motivating us to become better - better human being and/or better at what we do - it often backfires on us and actually erodes our motivation. Visit the 3rd mind habit we do well to manage to learn more about comparison and its effects on self help motivation.
The mind is an expert at swinging to extremes. It loves engage us in thinking that is all-or-nothing. For example...
If we don't get what we want (or even think that we might not get what we want), the mind swings to the opposite extreme, telling us that we don't want it at all. If the achievement of a goal or dream has been thwarted, the mind may readily swing to the extreme conclusion that it is better to do nothing and just 'let the chips fall as they may'.
The mind loves to be either 'over here' or 'over there'. It doesn't naturally know what to do with all of the space in the middle. It needs our help.
Two classic expressions of thinking all-or-nothing are catastrophizing and self-delusional positive thinking. Both, in their own unique ways, hamper our ability to self-motivate and accomplish our best intentions. Visit catastrophizing and delusional positive thinking to learn more.
On the surface of it, striving for perfection seems to be a highly admirable quality - and it is. Striving for perfection is an expression of our innate desire to reach for excellence. It is when striving for perfection starts getting in the way of excellence that we run into trouble. This is the detrimental aspect of perfectionism.
Excellence and effective self help motivation requires a flexibility and adaptability from us that our perfectionist tendencies may very well resist. If we like to strive for perfection, but also want to excel, we will need to loosen our grip on the 'ideal' we are striving for. Otherwise we run the risk that our idealization never becomes a realization.
Visit perfectionism to learn more about the 5th mind habit we do well to manage.
Procrastination is the very antithesis of exercising powerful self help motivation. When we procrastinate, we hold ourselves back. Self-motivated, we move forward with assurance and ease. There could be many reasons for the 'why' of procrastination. Yet, one thing is sure. If we don't become good at ways of overcoming procrastination we will fall short - time and again - from realizing our true capabilities.
In order to keep from wondering what we could have achieved 'if only', we owe it to ourselves to learn how to beat procrastination. Visit procrastination - the sixth mind habit we do well to manage.
Finding and cultivating the motivation to exercise is a matter of bringing both the conscious and subconscious mind on board with our plans. Trying to beat our old habits into submission using willpower alone can be a great character builder, but it isn't necessarily the best way to build long term workout motivation. Finding the motivation to exercise helps us with a more thorough approach to self help motivation and exercise.
For a 'Zen' approach to motivation and exercise be sure to check out how distraction can hurt our motivation to exercise. Workout motivation comes with full engagement has more on this.
Developing a strong 'can do' attitude is central to personal growth. It gives us the courage to take action and to meet the challenges as we climb our spiral path of self improvement and motivation. Developing this action-oriented attitude, also known as self-efficacy, is a key component to self help motivation and to achieving our intentions.
Caught by any of the mind habits outlined above we can sometimes get the feeling that these mind habits own us! We easily forget that habits are ours and not the other way around. We actually have the power to shape habit as we wish. Yet, to realize this power we need to see ourselves clearly.
Freedom from habits of mind explores three ways to 'step out-of-the-mind' so that we can gain a vantage point that finally gives us some much needed perspective.
We all have the capacity to enter a 'creative flow'. This is a potential that resides in all of us, no matter how hopelessly stuck we may feel. No matter how long our energy has been stagnating, it can start flowing again when we step out-of-the-mind. Being creative will help you reconnect with the creative instinct within and rekindle inspiration to bring more flow and natural self help motivation into your life.
Words have tremendous power. This is especially true when the words we use are clear and focused, removing the mental clutter and leaving us free to achieve. This is the power of smart goal setting.
Smart goal setting is a potent exercise in focused thinking and conscious use of words. Exploring this section of out-of-the-mind self improvement and motivation will teach you how to use words consciously and deliberately to eliminate self-sabotage and fuel self-motivation in powerful ways.
Inspirational quotations, motivational quotes and wise words of wisdom can be a powerful source of change in our lives. Reading a positive motivational quote at exactly the right time in our lives can have a profound effect on the inner environment of our mind. Whole internal worlds can shift and we can emerge with a new perspective. This unique collection of quotations on life may have exactly some inspirational thoughts that you need to hear.
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